Last week I shared some comparisons from a great article I read by Pastor Rod Loy on “secure leaders.” This week I would share some of his thoughts on “how to become a secure leader.”
This short list has really helped me to have some great conversations with emerging leaders.
Learn how God views you. Insecurity comes when you see yourself through your eyes instead of God’s. Replace your negative thoughts about yourself with God’s amazing thoughts about you!
Spend time with secure leaders and friends. Insecure people tend to congregate with other insecure people yet that’s the opposite of what you need to do.
It may go against your natural tendencies at first but spending time with secure people will ultimately make you feel more secure. Secure leaders don’t compete with you. They celebrate with you. They want to see
you succeed, advance, and grow.
As you spend time with leaders and friends who are settled enough in their own sense of self to work and live alongside you without competition or comparison, you’ll feel energized and empowered to do the same.
Recognize when your reactions are based on insecurity. If your reactions to people or situations are based on insecurity, learn to recognize that and practice positive self-talk. Read Scriptures that tell you how God sees you.
Spend more time with God. As Jude instructed, “But you, dear friends, must build up your lives ever more strongly upon the foundation of our holy faith, learning to pray in the power and strength of the Holy Spirit. Stay always within the boundaries where God’s love can reach and bless you. Wait patiently for the eternal life that our Lord Jesus Christ in his mercy is going to give you” (Jude 20–21, TLB).
The more time you spend praying, reading your Bible, and worshipping, the more secure you’ll feel.
I hope you’ll take time to talk to reflect on these comparisons and talk about them with your team. May God help all of us to model a culture of secure leadership.
We’re praying for you this weekend!